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Why Undercover Feminist, Pearl Davis, Needs Our Compassion

Written by Ann Burns

March 13, 2024

When the Villains are Beautiful

After the suggestions of mothering, turning houses into homes, raising children, and the like, Pearl Davis shook her head and responded, No.  “I just can’t find any data to support that there is anything women do better than men.”

Andrew Klavin, with his usual wit suggested,  “Go up to every man on the street and insult his mother; see how long your day lasts. People love their mothers.”

I tuned into Pearl Davis’ interview with Andrew Klavin, and was surprised how shallow the debate was.  Her every argument pivoted around the word “data.” When continually stating that there is nothing a woman can do that a man can’t do better, Andrew asked what her relationship is like with her own mom. “I don’t see why we need to get personal.” Pearl quipped awkwardly. 

And that is when my heart broke.  

Pearl is at Odds with Women because She is at Odds with Femininity.  

Reminiscent of Simone de Beauvoir’s disgust with femininity and appreciation for any compliment of her more masculine qualities, Pearl gushes when she is likened to Andrew Tate, spends her time criticizing women, and has even claimed that women are “worse” people than men. 

Yet, Pearl can’t have a discussion about the relational, or even what is mothering, without falling back on “well, the data.”

In her conversion to the manosphere, she is an undercover feminist, one at war with her own womanhood and adopting the external “stoic” traits of masculinity, prioritizing the data and science over the personal and the heart. Thus blinding her from the beautiful limitations that are found in both masculinity and femininity, limitations that enable us to be so perfectly complementary.

Instead, her antidotes caution men against marriage, get a prenup, and be suspicious of women with tattoos. 

I bring up the tattoo element because I find it diverting that when Pearl explains what a marriageable woman is, “no tattoos” makes the list, but there is no mention of a virtuous woman or belief in the indissolubility of marriage.  Everything for Pearl is based on the tangible. 

Pearl has publicly stated on multiple occasions that she is a Catholic, and yet her attitude towards marriage is much more rooted in Luther than Christ. “The maid will come if the wife will not,” so said Luther as he excused male infidelity, and denied marriage as a sacrament. 

In light of Pearl’s proclaimed Catholicism, her comments are particularly scandalous.  Her understanding of marriage is tethered to the divorce courts. Failing to acknowledge that, according to the Catechism, divorce is a grave offense. 

Pearl starts with the societal ills, looks at the data, and then instead of trying to find transcendent truth and healing, shakes her head and says “oof, this is bad business.”  It makes her insight not really that insightful. It’s like looking at a cold and instead of finding a remedy or root cause, going “oof, don’t get sick!”

Anyone can spit back data, but that does not denote understanding in the slightest. 

The abyss of problems that Pearl espouses is daunting, but ultimately, she is out of touch with virtue and orienting ourselves to a higher good. 

Pearl is, from what I can tell, a materialist, basing success entirely on worldly gain (a very manosphere belief).  She is a supposed stoic, and sees success, strength, legacy all rooted in personal gain and not done out of love for something more — wife, children, family, country, and ultimately, God.

The manosphere is dangerous because it encourages us to believe that the role of women, to be a mother, a restorer of beauty, and the heart of your home, is irrelevant. Because that “something more” femininity reminds us of is not as important as the self. 

Pearl would look for some data on who are the best, most successful designers to dismiss women rather than acknowledge the sacredness of the domestic church, and the wife’s sacred domain that men — good men — literally die to protect. It is in protecting women, cherishing the role of women, that GOOD men ensure that femininity is free to flourish and protect the home and nurture children.  Together, these components protect society. 

As Anthony Esolen reminds us, “the masculine and feminine rise and fall together.”  

But Pearl’s creed is entirely based on self-interest, a creed that is fundamentally at odds with her Faith.  “No one has greater love than this, to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” John 15:13

It’s only too easy to hear Pearl and be annoyed, but I think she needs compassion from us. 

She is our sister in Christ, and for whatever reason, these are deep wounds she is clearly battling and spreading over the internet. 

But, despite all the ills and open wounds, marriage is worth defending. 

Not because it’s difficult.  Life is difficult. 

Not because sin has introduced a plethora of perversions. 

But because it is Divinely ordained. Because marriage is good. 

 And, for us Catholics, we have been given it as a sacrament.

The union of a husband and wife is so important and so sacred; it reflects the love that God has for us.  This union is a gift from God. 

It is the highest form of friendship we are capable of achieving with another. “I love you” — not so much, but I love in the fullest way a human being is capable of doing so: a complete outpouring and giving of the self. 

I wish Pearl understood this. I wish she could see past the sin-corroded “data” of modernism, pornography, materialism, narcissism, and all the filth, and simply recognize the goodness of men, the goodness of women, and the goodness of marriage.  

“People Love Their Mothers.”

If women are incapable of doing anything as well as a men, why is the image of the burly, fierce man with a tattooed heart reading “mom”a thing? Surely, women are better women than men? Just as men are better men than women. 

A scene from Mel Gibson’s The Passion might hold the answer. 

 Christ falls and the Blessed Mother rushes out to her Son to comfort him.  Immediately, there is a cut to when Jesus was a little boy and fell; His loving mother ran out to hold His bruised body. 

“I’m here.”  Is the image of Mary.  Her face openly reveals the pain she feels on behalf of her Son. 

 So much about motherhood, about womanhood, is encapsulated in those brief, beautiful moments. 

A mother is one who gives of herself, puts behind her selfishness –her needs– for her family. She gives up her body to bring life into this world.  Every day she dies to herself for the good of another’s life.  She holds the bruised bodies from her husband to baby and whispers, “it’s okay. I’ve got you. I’m here.” 

She is her husband’s soft spot and her child’s place of nourishment and mercy.  

In her gentleness, a powerful strength surges forth, heals, rejuvenates, and gives life. It is her own gentleness that composes something so strong.  For that gentleness can look directly at all the pain and hurt of the world and say, “I’m here and I still love.”

This is our womanly call. We reveal the tenderness of God to man. And this is what Pearl cannot grasp. But that’s because we discover these truths in seeking virtue, not data.

Just because Pearl cannot grasp it, or if data shows us that more girls are looking into OnlyFans, doesn’t mean it isn’t true.  And the fact that some are tempted to think so is heartbreaking. 

Every woman is called to live out a maternal calling, even if she is not a mother.  And yes, even if she has a tattoo or a troubled past. 

Women who embrace their femininity have always kept life flourishing.

It was Esther, in her sweet tenderness, who swayed the bold king and saved her people.

It was the simple and pure-hearted Joan of Arc who, without killing one individual, led an army of brazen men to victory.

And it is our Blessed Mother, who is all goodness and purity, who will ultimately be the one to crush Satan’s head. 

 A woman.  

Our gentle Mother. 

Yes, people love their moms. 

They love the idea of mom because mom makes a home, and we all long for a place to feel seen, loved, nourished, and at home. 

Pearl wrapped up with her thoughts that “successful men would be successful with or without a woman,” and Andrew responded, “but the men don’t say that.  No happily married man thinks that.” 

Pearl, I hope one day you come to recognize that your femininity is a gift from God. Until then, I’m praying for you and I’d always be up to have a conversation. 

💙




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