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I am reminded of how a relationship with another person forces you to face yourself – dating and marriage, particularly. What is revealed isn’t always pretty. And here, once again, a person is shaking me out of my complacency, shattering my illusions about who I am and how this is all supposed to work. My baby is here, inside me, growing and changing and inviting me to change and grow.
Do we really believe we are so unworthy of joy? Or that joy is something vapid and phony? It reminds me of Leo Tolstoy’s Anna Karenina, which has one of the most dismal openings I have ever encountered: “All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” These words compose one of the most famous introductions in literature. They assume a tone of wisdom and insight. Yet, they could not be more false
At some point while pursuing a meaningful relationship, one can’t help but stumble upon an old and forgotten truth: men and women do not speak the language.
While we might use the same words, their meaning is different. The sooner we stumble upon this odd but desperately crucial truth, the better.
One of the most countercultural things we can do, as women, is learn to receive love despite feeling unworthy, and in turn learn to give love even when others deem it undeserved.
All our earthly accomplishments and pursuits culminate in dust, but the things of God are eternal. It is not about the horizontal— the confusion, the frustration, our own likes and dislikes, it’s about God. It is always about the vertical. And no matter what happens, we can always come back to that Truth.
“To glorify God is the primary purpose of the Holy Mass.”
— Dietrich von Hildebrand
A lot of people have been arguing over the mass lately. And many of those arguments consist of “I prefer” and “these people are…”.
There are broken people in all communities. There are people who reject Church doctrine, people who pick and choose what they think works best for them, and people whose hearts have been devoured by zeal. There are those who live their Faith according to particular influencers and reject all other teachers due to personal preference. But all of this is a lack of discernment, a lack of faith, a lack of formation, and an inordinate focus on the horizontal as opposed to the vertical: God.
When we lose sight of God, despair and uneasiness take root in our hearts. God is bigger than all our problems combined.
And our job is to simply give Him glory.
All the same, retaining an air of mystery in an overly-informed culture is radical. Society practically praises over-sharing as a virtue. People jubilantly tout “they have nothing to hide” and proceed to share all kinds of intimate details with whomever.
Yet, it’s not about having (or not having) something to hide, but rather acknowledging that some things are meant to be sacred. Some things are meant to be private. And some things are meant to be saved and only given to certain people.
And of course, the basic but forgotten truth, that some things are simply not your business.
But what has this to do with women specifically?
I get it!
As you inch further along in age, more and more of your friends get happily married. It’s easy to get impatient, desperate, or cynical.
It’s easy to let the desire for a spouse and children dominate your prayers.
But what else can you DO?
Here’s seven ways to get ready for a husband that don’t just involve begging God for one (no shame).