Embracing our Real Human Sexuality: A Redemptive Perspective on Gender and God

Written by Christine Lacayo

August 2, 2022

When the Villains are Beautiful

Can our physical truth and reality be altered with social constructs?

I was recently on a trip with some friends when the transgender movement came up in conversation. I shared my feelings about how children are encouraged at school to be whatever gender they want. My friend responded, “Well, if I grew up with parents who told me I was a girl my whole life, I would believe I’m a girl, but if I grew up with parents who told me I’m a they, I’d also believe I was a they.” True, a child looks to their parents for affirmation, security, identity, and truth.

I don’t have children, but I do know that once you become a parent, you immediately take on the role of leader, protector, and teacher to them. As a parent, you are responsible for sharing truth, nurturing your child’s spiritual growth, and protecting their emotional well-being.

My friend was right: children will believe whatever their parents tell them is true. What I’m not sure came across in my conversation with her is that there is only one truth that shapes human existence that can never be denied, and that’s our biological sex.

The entire human race has always been and will forever be a two-sexed humanity that complements each other. We do not determine our sex; it’s a choice made outside of ourselves. We are all made out of love and born either male or female.

God made Adam, and then he made Eve. A male and a female perfectly complement the other. Man was made and then woman was made because creation was not complete without his perfect counterpart.

Whether you believe in Genesis as symbolic biblical language or as the reality of this original human pair, or maybe you don’t believe it all, it’s hard to ignore the questions surrounding what’s true and what’s moral when it comes to human sexuality.

Can it be true that we can be born into the wrong body with the wrong sexual parts? Or is this person confused, deeply wounded, or so disoriented that they wish to be in another body?

Is it moral for teachers to teach their kids about their own sexual orientation and encourage kids with gender curiosities into medical transitions generating millions of dollars to pharmaceutical companies?

This gender ideology movement fails to acknowledge that the very essence of being a woman or a male is ingrained in our bones and DNA. We’re not the only species that exists in binary sexes. Sexual reproduction involving male and female gametes is common throughout the entire plant and animal kingdom. This is what ties us, unmistakably, to the rest of creation on earth.

Made by His Design

Not one single soul on this earth was created by mistake. We were all created in God’s likeness and in His image, but in every single human heart, there is something that is missing, something that is forever empty, and the only thing that can fill it with overflowing abundance is Jesus Christ, Our Lord.

He is the freedom you dream of, the love you yearn for, the forgiveness you desire, and the identity you seek. It’s an eternal love that is so potent and overwhelming; words can’t even describe it.

“Love one another as I have loved you.” (John 15:12). These words make up the meaning of Christ’s love for us and our human sexuality. But if we don’t live true to God’s real design for our human sexuality, we deny ourselves the chance to have true joy, love, and happiness. No amount of pills, hormones, injections, or surgeries will ever fill that emptiness.

There has been no conclusive evidence that shows how changing your body to the opposite sex alleviates emotional or mental stress nor improves health outcomes for those with gender dysphoria.

The American Journal of Psychiatry published a paper in October 2019 on the world’s largest dataset on sex-reassignment procedures titled, “Reduction in Mental Health Treatment Utilization Among Transgender Individuals After Gender-Affirming Surgeries: A Total Population Study.” After several letters were sent to the Journal questioning the statistical methodology used to make these claims, the editors and authors of the paper reanalyzed the data. They issued a correction demonstrating “no advantage of surgery in relation to subsequent mood or anxiety disorder-related health care.”

In their correction to the original study, the authors point out that in reanalyzing their data, “individuals diagnosed with gender incongruence who had received gender-affirming surgery were more likely to be treated for anxiety disorders compared with individuals diagnosed with gender incongruence who had not received gender-affirming surgery.”

Another study performed in Sweden on the long-term effects of transitioning revealed that, after surgery, transgender people were more likely to commit suicide, at a rate 19 times higher than the average person.

Studies have shown that up to 20% of those who have transitioned regret their decision. Countless human stories collected by Walt Heyer (a man who regrets having lived as a woman for eight years) uncover deep regrets and testimonials from people worldwide eager to share the truth with others considering sex changes.

Grace on the Road to Calvary

We are simply not born trapped in the body of the opposite sex. Could it be that the most natural therapy and treatment of gender dysphoria is helping people find their purpose, practice self-love, and a path to embracing their natural bodies? Rather than changing a human’s natural body and physical appearance to try to align to their emotional state, does it not make more sense to help align a person’s thoughts and mental state to the reality of their true body?

Those who struggle with anxiety, depression, and gender dysphoria will never find wholeness or happiness in puberty blockers or cross-sex hormone treatments and surgeries.

The honest answer lies in a few necessities that every human being on this earth shares in common, whether you are male or female: the need for genuine love, compassion, and respect. We all need a friend who will take the time to truly listen and walk with us to lighten the load of our cross. Just as Simon from Cyrene helped carry Jesus’ cross to Calvary. Pain and suffering are our greatest teachers and catalysts for true transformation and healing. This is when our eyes truly open, allowing us to see that we are never walking alone because His wounds were the price for our ransom which brought forth our redemption.

No matter how physically weak, humiliated, or unrecognizable we may feel, it is impossible to deny the grace and hope that fill our hearts when we walk with each other on the road to Calvary– like mirrors of Christ walking with us, fully aware that death will one day be upon us.

Only then will our perspective change from “why is this happening to ME” to “how does God want me to serve others with the cross I bear?”


About the Author

Christine is a multilingual content writer helping mission-driven brands build their audience and grow their brand awareness using brand storytelling through a multicultural lens.


While receiving her Master’s in Environmental Management and Sustainable Development at St. Edward’s University, she learned about the mission and values of the founders of her alma mater, The Congregation of Holy Cross. A Holy Cross education at St. Edward’s University helped her to embrace a regenerative lifestyle through the lens of the Catholic faith: the importance of building community, connecting people back into nature, living your faith in action, and working together for the common good.


After working for several years with various environmental non-profits around the world helping them increase their brand awareness through communications and community building, she decided she wanted to start her own business as a writer to help other mission-driven companies make a deeper impact through multicultural content marketing. 


Christine loves traveling, meeting people from different cultures, and is fascinated by people’s different faith journeys. She is also an ocean storyteller using her voice and writing to raise awareness about the health of our ocean! 

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