Week 3: Soft

Written by TheFeminineProject

February 13, 2023

When the Villains are Beautiful

Week 3: Soft

One of the social media trends for girls is heralding in your “soft girl” era, which essentially opts for a gentler aesthetic — flowy dresses, florals, bows, etc. This trend encourages women to don a more feminine look.  But beyond the appearance, this is one trend that makes sense— it taps into a female’s natural desire for beauty.  Her natural desire to safeguard and uphold a place of warmth and harmony.  It stands against the decades of women emancipating themselves from their femininity, and training themselves in a masculine energy. 

I think you might notice this in the way so many young girls carry themselves.  The gait of many young women and girls is marked by a masculine edge. 

But on a deeper level, growing in softness requires receptivity — a willingness to receive. 

If we don’t know how to receive, we won’t be able to give.  We have to first receive the love of God, before we can truly learn to love.

Where can you be more receptive?

Are you putting off time spent in prayer?

Do you not accept the help given to you?  

Simple things like embracing and even encouraging chivalry.  Asking for assistance with a task that you know you can do, but you can humbly ask for help.

Maybe it’s not getting defensive.  How do you respond to criticism, or even simple questions?  Are you always on the defensive?  Growing in softness may look like being less reactionary and listening more. 

If you have a tendency to rush or prioritize “busy” over fruitfulness, try and challenge yourself to slow down more — pour yourself a cup of tea and take a deep breath.  

As women, we have so much influence when it comes to our mood/energy.  It really sets the tone for a household; so, regardless of your state in life, working on cultivating a warm and peaceful presence will not be wasted. 


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Some wise words from Mother Angelica…

A Prayer for Inner Peace

Lord, please put Your peace in my heart.

I’m worried and anxious.

My mind races and obsesses.

I can’t help thinking about my problems.

And the more I think about them,

the more depressed I become.

I feel like I’m sinking down in quicksand

and can’t get out.

Calm me, Lord.

Slow me down, put Your peace in my heart.

No matter what problem I have, Lord,

You are bigger,

You are more powerful than it is.

So I bring my problem to You.

I know what I want.

I know my will.

I do not know Yours.

I do not know how You will use this problem for my salvation.

I do not know what good You will work out from this evil.

But I trust You.

I trust Your goodness and Your wisdom.

So I place myself in Your hands.

Please fill my heart with peace.


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